Post Wedding Blues

Six months ago, I married the man of my dreams and cannot believe how fast the time has gone. The holidays snuck up on us so quickly and before I knew it, we were ringing in the New Year. Our romantic getaway for Valentine’s Day was over in an instant and my birthday festivities came as quickly as they left. It’s disappointing that such warm and intimate times of the year come and go so quickly and all that’s left are those extra pounds that I swear, once you’re married, are even harder to get rid of. 

Why do we get so excited, happy and creative leading up to an event rather than have those same feelings after the event has come and gone? I mean really, the anticipation is hope and thrill but as my better half would say, the memories last a lifetime! My hubby and I revisited this a few nights ago when we were talking about the most memorable day of our lives, our wedding, which is by no means an exception to this rule. We spent a year, well almost a year, planning our perfect day which, of course as many would say, flies by in the blink of an eye. You spend hours searching for the perfect dress, complete with the sexiest pair of shoes imaginable, the ideal hairstyle to compliment the perfect dress and make sure your make up consult is flawless. You spend hours perfecting your first dance, which for us was a surprise hip hop number, that we had so much fun with, ensuring the menu is full of flavour, your cake is everything you dreamed of and the flowers are a perfect fit. You picture everyone’s face, how they will look, what they will say and then BAM! It’s all over and there is nothing left except a walked upon aisle runner, some rose petals, left over programs and a wedding dress you will never wear again. I think the correct term here is post wedding extravaganza blues.

So, how do you fight these post wedding extravaganza blues you ask? Below are a few suggestions that hopefully will help.

1. Help a friend or family member plan their special day. Every bride has her secrets, words of wisdom and lessons learnt so pass them along to fellow brides. My sister is getting married in the Summer of 2012 so I have already started putting together a list of must haves for her special day.
2. Watch your wedding video with your other half and tell him or her what you were thinking just before you entered, ask him what he told his brother just before he got up to do his speech, ask him what that little smirk meant when he caught your eye before you cut the cake. Look at how your guests enjoyed the evening, the dance move your grandfather was attempting on the dance floor, the proud smile on your mother’s face. Get a bag of popcorn and enjoy a good laugh, cry and snuggle. Snuggling is the best part ;)
3. Donate your wedding dress. There are many charitable organizations that accept donated wedding dresses and Brides against Breast Cancer is one that comes to mind. Brides have a chance to find the gown of their dreams at a remarkable price and your wedding dress can help make a wish come true for someone else. Visit http://bridesagainstbreastcancer.org/ for more information.
4. Throw a Party!! If you want to re-create some magic put together some DIY invitations, centerpieces, menu and place cards and set a date for a get together at your place. It will be on a smaller scale than a wedding but you can whip out all the great gifts you received – from that china set to the wine glasses – and put them to good use. Invite people who you wish could have spent more one-on-one time with you at the wedding, and make it a point to have some fun.

The most important piece of advice that I can give you is to enjoy your time doing all the things you love and remember all the wonderful reasons you chose to marry your special somebody. For me, I married the love of my life who is my inspiration, my best friend and as corny as it sounds my soul mate!!